wondering

Why I still get surprised and disappointed and somewhat disgusted when I find out about orthodox friends and their 'unorthodox' doings. it's just very frustrating when there are many of us who do try to keep our behaviors in check and attitudes and beliefs steady and growing. It's the difference, I suppose, as someone put it to me many years ago, between being outwardly observant and being genuinely religious. It's just hard to tell them apart until you see actions that were supposed to go unnoticed.

But if you're not religious, why go through the bother of putting up a front?