stupid shidduch dysfunctionality

kids are being sold a basket of good that don't exist.

My brother recently went out with two girls who didn't work out:

Girl #1: Didn't believe when my yeshivish brother said he was supportive of her going to med school. Didn't like that her parents hadn't found out something about my family that my brother told her. Didn't have the maturity to deal with it herself, but kept going to her mother and her rabbi who then relayed her feelings to my brother. Great foundation for a relationship.

Girl #2: 25 years old, got along great with him, but then told him that she really wanted her husband to learn 1-2 years in kollel before working. My brother's past that stage, and my parent are no longer supporting his schooling... after 6 years of learning post-high school. If you're 25, don't want someone who's going to learn forever, than most of the boys who will be working have already moved past the '2-years in kollel before working', and are already in grad school/working.

relaunch?

Thinking of relaunching with a dif. focus. instead of being my blog about me, something i've been thinking about lately is how judaism is different / similar to other religions. And what, if anything, does that mean to the way we react and interact with being Jewish and with other religions... We'll see if I have time or the will to post though.

How to Help

NY Times Donations Page

If you're wondering what you can do to help, the NYTimes has a page listing aid organizations accepting donations for the earthquake & tsunami victims in Asia. They include the Joint and the AJWS.

May the world know from no more tragedies.

And I don't even go to NYU

At a movie theatre in Battery Park city:

Two girls and a guy, standing right next to me at the concession stand, shaking up their popcorn.

The Olsen twins.

Of course, I just pretended to be cool, and basically ignored them, as they ignored me. This is my first real NYC celebrity siting, more or less since I don't recognize most people anyway. Though I did recognize Ben Affleck when they were filming Jersey Girl outside my old offices. But that wasn't an 'Oh, we're stars just hanging out' type of siting.

is it just me?

*Who finds herself suffocated when a perfectly lovely guy I'm dating calls every single day? Makes me want to run screaming for the hills. I don't know him that well, but as AB says, that's how to get to know him better. And if there's one person who I think is actually sane and grounded, it would be her. So I suppose I should listen to her and be a little less uptight about this.

*Who can't decide what in the world to do with her life? I have the GMAT scores to go anywhere I'd like, but I've got to write 3 essays before next week, so I can get applications in on time. Also, I've got to ask people at work for recommendations, which means I've got to tell them I'm thinking about leaving. Is it the right time to leave? Is it the right time to go to business school? Do I have enough experience to make it worth it? I guess my problem is that I constantly underestimate what my skills are, and it makes it difficult to see what I'm really capable of becoming, and what I can do now. I guess I'm still ambivalent about business school. But also, I love going and learning, just unsure that bschool is the type of learning I'd like to do.

*Who ignores a sprain in her wrist for a month or so? I've finally called my doctor, who of course is on vacation. It seems like just a sprain, but it doesn't seem to be going away. And since I ignored my thumb breaking on my right hand 2 years ago, I don't want to ignore my left wrist now, otherwise I won't have the full function of either hand. Which, I think, is probably a bad thing.

*Who seriously doubts her sanity every now and then?

oy.

I truly cannot believe this!

Then again, New Yorkers tend to be more than a little obsessive about their dogs. I suppose Jewish Kitsch has been taken to new levels with this one.

chanuka sameach :)

have a lovely one.

and happy bday to little brother... you're now legal in Canada. Except that being in Israel at the moment, I suppose that doesn't help you all that much.

goofy girl

When do you know your snowboarding could use some improvement?

Perhaps this completely serious (and concerned) comment from a passing skier after a particularly spectacular fall this weekend tipped me off...

"Oh good! You're not dead!"

Best time I've had in way too long!

P.S. Anyone get the reference in the title, or is it too obscure?